Happy Valentines Day!

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• February 14, 2023January 14, 2026
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Hi everyone,

I wanted to wish everyone a very Happy Valentines Day today.  Most people have their own ideas about what this day means to them but there are also some cynical folks out there who believe it’s an over commercialized day filled with loaded expectations and often less than happy endings.  Maybe you are a single person feeling a bit down because you don’t have someone special to celebrate the day with, or perhaps you and your spouse or partner have been together so long that this day is virtually meaningless.  Whatever your situation, a change in your perspective can make a huge difference.

I challenge you to shift your ways of thinking and try to look at things differently no matter your situation.  Who loves you the most?  YOU!  What better person to spoil and pamper you than YOU?  Afterall, you know yourself better than anyone; you know what you like and what you don’t like.  Self love is absolutely necessary before you can give love to anyone else so let’s start there.

Many years ago my thoughts about Valentines Day were dismal at best.  I realized I needed to change my outlook from that of self pity to one of self love.  Just because my husband wasn’t the romantic man I had hoped he would be didn’t define my future.  As young women growing up, we are often drawn in to the fantasies of romantic love, the storybook ending of Cinderella and in watching Hallmark movies that make love look so simple and easily attained.   We also grow up thinking we aren’t good enough.  We aren’t thin enough, tall enough, good looking enough, smart enough etc, etc.   I would watch as everyone flocked to the stores to buy candy, flowers and cards with the displays in the stores so overwhelming and overflowing with commercialism and I would start feeling bad about myself.

I used to feel like I was the only one without a partner to celebrate the holiday with until I changed my outlook on things and realized what the beauty of the situation created.  I realized that I didn’t need someone else to love me and spend time with me, I only needed MYSELF to love me.  What an empowering moment I experienced.  I realized that I could spoil myself, treat myself and indulge myself any time I wanted, it wasn’t just limited to Valentines Day.  I didn’t need a holiday or a special occasion, I could do these things any time I wanted without societal pressures and commercialized situations commanding my attention.

Now, years later, I am still celebrating Valentines Day for ME.  My celebration starts with fresh cut flowers of my choice followed by my favorite meal.  I turn on my favorite music and pour a glass of my favorite wine.  I usually settle in and watch a traditional Valentines movie in honor of the day and because I am a hopeful romantic at heart.  After the movie, I draw a lovely bubble bath and treat myself to a full array of body treatments. I put candles around the tub and have some soft music playing in the background.  I settle in for a long, relaxing soak.

While I can’t dispute that sharing the occasion with someone special can be wonderful and memorable, spending it with the wrong person just to say you had a date, can be a great disservice to yourself and can leave some “not so wonderful” memories as well.

I love myself enough to celebrate ME on Valentines Day and every other day of the year.  I am worth it and so are you, we just need to BELIEVE it!

Let the pampering begin….